WHAT IS YOUR ‘W’ TO GETTING MENTALLY FIT?

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What is your ‘W’ to getting mentally fit?

Listening to business people, we are increasingly finding that whilst they are attempting to get back on the horse, due to border restriction easing and renewed market confidence, they are struggling not to fall off the other side.

In this fortnight’s article we explore the concept of worry and offer a highly effective strategy that can easily be habitualised to reduce anxiety created by excessive worrying. By implementing this daily strategy you will enjoy greater levels of calm and life enjoyment.

There’s so many great options for the practical activity this fortnight. Why not take a long W-alk, have a crack at a W-ater sport, get ready for Christmas with some W-indow Shopping, buy a W-orld map and plan your next overseas trip, or finally start W-riting that book.

If you have young children, here’s 13 wonderful letter W crafts & activities to enjoy.

Whatever you have a crack at, take time out for yourself and enjoy it!

This fortnight’s article

Worry and how to tame it
What is worry?
Worry is a natural response to anticipated future problems. Worry is usually short term. Worry is caused by a concerning situation (like COVID-19, health or finances, or external broader issues such as environmental pollution, social structure or technological change), which prods you to use problem-solving skills to address your concerns. It differs from anxiety, which is persistent, even when concerns are unrealistic. Read more…
 
Taming Worry with ‘Worry Time’

When we try specifically not to think about something, we often end up thinking about it more. So, if we want to spend less time thinking about something simply trying not to think about it won’t work. Enter ‘Worry Time’…

The Worry Time Strategy

The worry time strategy is not about stopping worrying, but about reducing the amount of time we spend worrying about things outside of our control. Instead, we can then spend the time we aren’t worrying doing productive things, without being negatively effected.

There are 3 parts to the worry time technique:

1. Set up your worry time 

Your worry time is an allotted time during the day in which you are allowed to worry. It is usually advised to make this a 15-30 minute period, at this time it is probably a good idea to include news-reading in your worry time. Therefore you might want to give yourself 15 minutes for reading the news or online articles about coronavirus alone, and 15 for your own personal worries. Your worry time should not be longer than 30 minutes! Try setting a timer if you think you might go over this. How long will you make your worry time?

Your worry time should happen at the same time every day. Different times work for different people but it’s a good idea to have it late enough in the day that you will actually have things to worry about, but early enough that you have time to pick your mood back up and do some relaxation before bed. 5 or 6pm works for a lot of people, as cooking and eating dinner can also be effective ways to stop worrying at the end of your worry time. What time will you do your worry time?

Your worry time needs to take place somewhere uncomfortable and that is not associated with rest. If you do your worry time in or on your bed, your bed will become associated with worry, which isn’t helpful for sleep! It is also helpful to be somewhere that you don’t want to stay much longer than 30 minutes. Consider taking your worry time on a hard chair pushed away from where you sleep/work/relax, or sat outside on a step or bench (maintaining distance from others). Where will you do your worry time?

You need to be able to stop your worry time once the 15-30 minutes is up. Have an activity that you will do straight after that will move your attention away from the worries. What activity will you do to end your worry time?

Here are some ideas:

  • Call a friend to speak about things OTHER THAN coronavirus
  • Play an instrument, or a game you enjoy
  • Cook a meal or make a hot drink and snack
  • Watch a favourite TV programme or read a book

2. Postpone your worries at all times other than your worry time

During the day when a worry thought comes to you (a thought about something bad happening in your future that you cannot immediately do anything about), write it down. You could:

  • Put your worries on post-it notes and stick them on your door/fridge
  • Write them down in a notebook that you keep on your desk
  • Write them in a note on your phone

Then in your worry time you will come back to this list and think about each worry then. Where will you write down your worry thoughts?

Once you have written it down, do something to postpone that worry, by moving your attention to something else. What things will you try to postpone your worries? You could:

  • Go for a run or a walk and pay close attention to the things around you (other people, the plants, the weather, the sounds etc.)
  • Do a guided meditation or yoga session online
  • Call someone, and talk about things OTHER than coronavirus
  • Read a book
  • Look through photos that remind you of positive memories
  • Make a hot drink and get a snack

3. Using my worry time effectively

In your worry time you will come back to your list of worries that you’ve written down as they came up during the day. For each one, ask yourself can I do anything to control or change this thing I’m worried about?

If the answer is YES then make a plan and share it with someone supportive who can help with it even if just by keeping you accountable to following through on it.

For example you might:

  • Be worried about someone who is not treating you well, so make a plan to talk to them and think about how to do this compassionately
  • Be worried about living on your own so make a plan to ask people if they’d help you with your food shops
  • Be worried about your own or others’ mental health during Covid, so make a plan to spend 30minutes or an hour a day working through self-help resources such as those in our articles, or doing a mindfulness course

If the answer is NO then ask yourself if it is worth worrying about that thing (using up your time and energy and increasing your anxiety which could reduce your immune function in time), or could you let it go?

Letting go of worries is very difficult, but self-compassion and mindfulness exercises can often help.

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